Build confidence | How to be confident
As human beings we pass many challenges everyday, some of them makes us uncomfortable. with time we build a shield of shy and fear, to protect our selves from those challenges. It is a deference strategy your mind use to run from uncomfortable situations.
But this is not the way we made from the beginning, we are social beings, we should be comfortable with groups, friends, and partners such as work partners or relationship partners.
In this article i am inviting you to throw that unnecessary shield away, and start a new confident life, full of relationships and respect, with most important love.
1. knowledge about yourself
Yes, knowing yourself is the first key to build confidence. you should focus more on your point of strength better than looking about why you are weak in something. If you are smart, don't be shy to let everyone see how smart you are.
If you are handsome/beautiful, or you think you are ugly ! you can keep your style up to date. You could be fat or skinny, tall or short, it will not be your measurements.
Physical appearance is not everything, usually it is just 20 % of how people like you or not. When you look inside of yourself and work on your personality, you will be at that stage. Throwing the fake shield is important and it starts from yourself.
Upgrade yourself to be confidence by knowing what makes you shy or UN-relax.
2. Knowledge of human nature
After knowing that the problem is just in your mind. You are the one who give the others that look about you. UN-confident
people, send that idea to others by themselves. So what to do is, you should know how our nature works.
As a social being, you are made to be in packs not individual. humans are more likely as lions than tigers, we hunt in packs
we live in packs we have social life and social positions.
All that to give you your position in society, and no shame to be yourself.
Father and son relationship is stable all life, son can't be father for his father. when you know that you should go to the uncomfortable
side in social life.
The competition, who is more and who have more ! this idea should be thrown away from your mind. It is not your business to know what they have or let them know, what do you have. you are able to do what you want no matter how stupid it is but don't harm the pack.
People care about what they see or hear. You can regret some bad things you did, but keep that regret for yourself, no need to let
the others see that or judge you.
knowledge of human nature important, we all humans we do mistakes we overcome our mistakes. Everyday is a new start and a new chance for you to be what you dream to be. if you don't harm the pack, all will be good for you. And yes, keep secrets for yourself.
3. Shy is your enemy
why being shy will throw you away from the equation ?
simply being shy will be ended when you say thank you to someone, and that's it. Back to your normal situation continue your day relax and confidence.
To know how shy you are, look at your acts when you are around people and compare it when you are alone. If you play video games, do you chat with others during the game, or you are that guy who turning off his microphone ?
if you are a girl, and you draw anything you like, but you fight and yell when someone offer to see your drawing or your notebook.
Many and many examples around us, or in us. Shy is the enemy, there is difference between being kind and being shy. Being shy around people will give them an opinion that you are week.
In opposite side, being confident will give them the feeling that you are strong, capable of anything and everything.
So be shy when you say thank you, and then back to be confidence you can do it.
4. Ideas to be confident
Here is some ideas to be more confident and more popular:
make conversations, don't be that guy who don't know anyone or even their names.
Contact with people, ask them about their day, about their life, they will like it and will like to see you more. At shops or malls, you can talk with buyers they will not find you weird. Try to open conversations and you will look confidence for sure.
If you play online video games, there is no harm to give your opinion, or even throw some jokes, don't be idiot just be confidence and friendly. You play and that what you like, at the same time you make friends and build your confidence.
Video games are best way to enter into conversations and a good start to practice for the real life relationships.
Talking to people can be dangerous, so use it wisely. Your job is to open a subject, but not to talk all the way. Give the others a space
to talk and enjoy your company. you will feel more relax and happy, when you see other people like to talk to you. So take the chance and listen to others. and when they finish the idea, throw your comment in a positive way.
If you argue with someone, don't say something stupid because this is how the shield of shy will be build. Be sure that you are awesome, free, and cool. You can talk, open conversations
but it is not only about you. Remember this world is not for only you, but you are an important part of it.
know yourself, then the human nature will make the way so easy, and you will be confident. Practice with friends in school/university, or people around you everyday, like neighbors, buyers, workers and family.
thank you
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